Tag: Mental Health

Stand Up For Yourself

I apologize now for this not being amazingly organized. It just poured out haha.

Everyone is constantly spewing opinions, yet they don’t have their life in order. 

DO NOT entertain this bullshit. 
People who are constantly giving an opinion have way too much time on their hands. And chances are it is because they’re not dealing with their own issues. Unless you want to end up EXACTLY like that person, kick their advice to the wayside. No two people’s situations are the exact same. Someone may judge you for buying too many coffees, but what they don’t factor in is it may be your only time for yourself throughout the day. Even beyond that, those same people blow an absurd amount of money on alcohol or at the damn casino on the weekends. Just don’t let these opinions bother you. If their opinion has some value, then of course take it for what it is worth, but don’t let these shape you! 
Now let’s not get it twisted. This goes both ways! Do not let the opinions of those around you force you to do stuff you don’t want to do. Fuck their opinions. If they won’t like you unless you do something that makes you uncomfortable, kick them to the curb. You need people around you that are going to love you, support you, and not judge you throughout the process. Get some friends that are working towards something greater. Ones who understand what it is like to have a dream. Those who aren’t necessarily drinking every weekend and do things out of the norm. If you and your friends do the exact same thing every weekend, and you want more from life, it’s time to change. 

That change starts with how you view yourself and those people you keep around you…

We Don’t Need Your Advice

How many times have you received terrible advice?

It seems that everyone wants to give advice, without having any idea what you are talking about. Those around you can literally never have accomplished what you are trying to accomplish, yet they have advice on it…how does that work?


I’m at a point in my life where I am taking no one’s advice if they have not accomplished what I am pursuing. Why would I?

Often times, people’s advice is just their fear showing through them. They are afraid to take any risks, and in return, they project those exact same fears on you with the possibility of hindering you from pursuing anything worth while. 

And don’t get me started on old people giving advice…how many times have you heard from an older generation that you should go into tech or finance because the industry is currently booming? And they say this without knowing a damn thing about your love or abilities related to tech and finance.
Older people completely disregard the human factor of it all and just look at the money. But if it was that damn easy, why didn’t they get into finance? Why don’t they have an absurd amount of money now, and the happiest of lives?

Moral of the story being, do not let anyone steer you off of your path. Only you know where the world is leading you, but that doesn’t come without some effort. Truly listen to the world and to yourself and see what is best for you. See what could truly get you out of bed every morning, and what would truly allow you to live and sustain. 


Now let’s pursue our passions with the upmost resilience and see what this beautiful yet crazy thing called life has in store for us. 

Love!

Grant

Stop Entertaining Gossip and Negativity

When was the last time you had a conversation where there was no gossip involved?

Really…think about it. 

So much of our damn conversations revolve around gossip, negativity, or complaining, yet we wonder why we are chronically down?

I stopped entertaining negative conversation at the top of the year, and let me tell you, some conversations get super awkward when you done entertain the negativity, but it sends such a strong message. 

I’m not even saying you have to say, “I’m done entertaining negative conversation.” Honestly, just stay silent and the message is received immediately. They’ll think it’s weird, but they won’t say anything. Then 5 minutes will pass and they’ll try to gossip again, and then it will hit them, and they’ll feel uncomfortable for gossiping. But it creates this internal dialogue of them gossiping and it results in some self reflection. Now does that mean they’ll hangout with you again? Not necessarily haha, but it eliminates that negativity. People bond over negativity and it’s extremely toxic. 


With all of this new found energy, you can truly pursue something you love, or even find awesome friends that encourage you, rather than constantly gossip. And you better believe, if they will gossip to you, they sure as hell will gossip about you! 

Write Down Your Goals

It is weird how real things get when we make them tangible. It is one thing to think up ideas and discuss what must be done to make them a reality, but it’s a whole new ball game when you see them written on a goal list. 

When you see your goals written in your handwriting day in and day out, it eats at you. You see them and you think. You analyze. You start thinking tangibly. You see yourself accomplishing those goals. They truly start to manifest themselves. They’re so close you can fucking taste them. 


When you put that energy out in the world, it sends it back. When the world senses that determination, it begins to part and show you your path. That doesn’t mean you won’t have to chop down some brush along the way, and then take a blind leap of faith, but the world offers you a cloud upon which you land. Everything slows down and you start thinking at that rate. That discomfort starts to feel a little more doable. Now when you look into the eyes of discomfort, you put your head down and charge forward. And the world sees this. The world feels this. Those around you feel this. Your goals know they’re in your sights. You’re onto them. 


But only because you wrote them down and allowed them to sail out into the world. 

Love

Grant 

Stop Doing the Easy Work

We all have dreams and ambitions, and we all want to feel like we are working towards those. Yet, there comes a time when we really need to evaluate the steps we are taking towards these dreams. We can literally work towards these goals everyday, but never get anywhere. And I know I’m not the only one who has felt like this. Why is it that we can constantly work, yet make no real progress?

It is because we do the easy stuff. We tackle the easy little goals that are literally jus  there to make us feel like we are being productive. If you find yourself skating through a task, 9 times out of 10, it’s too easy and not actual beneficial. If there is a task at hand that is driving you fucking insane, and really forcing you to think, that’s when you are really asking yourself the ugly questions that result in progress. 

Now don’t get me wrong, they’re miserable, but when you find out the answer to them, you’ll know so much more about your task at hand. 

For example, when it comes to business, asking yourself the financial questions and getting all of your expenditures perfect is one of the most beneficial things you can do for a business, but it is also some of the most brutal work. 

We must ask ourselves these ugly questions in any aspect of life if we truly want to grow and progress. Next time you are feeling stagnant, take a step back and this about what you could possibly be doing to progress. The things that scare you and make you uncomfortable are where you should focus. And believe me…you will start to see serious progress. 

Now let’s go out and get uncomfortable!

…maybe not the most motivational thing I’ve ever said, but you get what I’m saying haha

I hope y’all enjoyed this read, and it allows you to truly pursue something worth while!

Love!

Grant

Shut Up and Start Doing

How many times have you found yourself telling your friends about what you wanted to do in the future? How about your significant other?

Why do you think we constantly talk about what we are going to do? Has anything good ever really come from talking about something? I don’t think so…


I used to do this all the damn time. I would get super excited about these ideas and I would tell everyone about them. But it eventually got to a point where I looked in the mirror and asked myself a couple questions: 

  1. Why do you need to tell everyone about these ideas?
  2. Have you actually laid any groundwork to make this happen?
  3. What must I truly do to make these dreams a reality?

So I ask myself these questions, and things began to make sense. I tell everyone about these because I was doubting my own abilities and needed reassurance. Acknowledging this allowed me to see the subconscious self doubt taking place, and caused me to analyze myself and become truly confident. I started then thinking about if I had done any true work to get closer to this dream, and the reality was I had not. I had done little shit, but it was merely to feel productive. Not to truly progress towards my dream. Finally, I asked myself what the hell I had to do to really pursue these dreams, and i realized that I had to really start doing the scary stuff. The things that you get scared thinking about. The things that make you question if you are truly capable. The sort of stuff that will have you learning stuff about yourself you never knew. Yeah…that sort of stuff. 


It was when I established this mindset was a necessity to succeed that I started to see true growth. I started asking myself the ugly questions, and started getting well deserved, beautiful results. 

We must take the ugly stuff head on. We must do what others are too scared to do. And when we do that is when we start to separate ourselves from the crowd. 

Let your work speak for you. Lay that groundwork and it will speak for you. 

Now shut up and start doing…you deserve it.


Love!!
Grant

We Are Overrun With Fear

What stops us from pursuing every goal and dream we have ever had? Why haven’t we accomplished everything we have put our mind to? Is it because we are incapable?  Do we not have the resources? What is it?


I think many of us wouldn’t even be able to answer that question because we never get far enough to find out. 

Fear haults us from even pursuing something because it seems too scary or all around impossible. But how the hell do we know that? We have no idea what we are capable of. Many of us allow fear to limit our lives in every facet. Want a new job? Too scared we aren’t good enough to get it. Want to start a business? What if we fail? Want to hangout with some buddies? Too scared they may not even want to hangout with us. 


We MUST start to face these fears head on. At some point, you have to look yourself in the mirror and accept that failure is a serious possibility. But it’s never truly a failure if you tried. As long as you got out, tried, got knocked down, and picked yourself back up, you are successful. By even trying, you overcome so damn much. You allowed your self to try, and that’s a fuckig victory. If you continue to at least “try,” you will be mind blown at where life takes you. You may get denied and knocked down 1000 times, but each little victory you have will be so damn glorious! 


You have to trust me, and better yet, trust yourself! You are capable, and you deserve everything the world has to offer you, as long as you keep facing your fears and trying. 

Life rewards the hell out of those who step out of their comfort zone and really push their limits. You will truly reap the fruits of your labor, and they will never taste so sweet…


Nothing is ever as bad as the fear of it happening is. In our heads, we play out these terrible scenarios of failure, but when they truly happen, you just pick yourself up and keep on pushing! Life is all about getting your ass kicked and swinging back with a smile on your face. 


Now go out there and get knocked down. Learn some shit about the world, and better yet, yourself. See what you are made of…I bet it’s a lot more than you would have ever imagined. 

I hope y’all enjoyed this post, and I hope it gave you a little look into the psychology of fear and how much we truly hinder ourselves. Feel free to comment or leave any questions below. I’d love to hear from yall!

Love!!

Grant

Can Alcohol Cause Depression?

I started casually drinking when I was a junior in high school and partied my ass off until I was about a junior in college. Throughout all of this time, I was battling depression. I wasn’t running from it with booze by any stretch. I actually refused to drink when I felt down, so that it didn’t become a vice. But as I decided to really start to battle this depression, I started doing everything in my power to find the root of it. And this is when I drew the correlation between my alcohol use and depression.


 I only started feeling down and depressed as a junior in high school and that’s the same year I started drinking…Somethings adding up. Now that seemed way too easy to me so I wasn’t convinced right away. But as I cut back on my drinking, I would wake up feeling like a had a bit more energy. I didn’t have to work so hard to get up and going emotionally. Get this! Some mornings I even woke up, dare I say it, happy…it was a whole different world. And then when I would drink again, I would wake up feeling like I was emotionally on the sadder, depressed end of the spectrum.

I then got to thinking, “I see this direct correlation in myself, but has anyone else investigated this?” And sure enough…http://www.jsad.com/doi/abs/10.15288/jsa.2006.67.837 , and this is just one of an abundance of sources…

The more I read about it, the more I realized how real “substance induced depression” is…all my feelings steered me right. It only makes sense though. If we are using a depressant, our body’s natural functions will be “depressed,” our mood included. 


So I encourage you, before turning to any pills or outside sources, unless truly needed, (which if so, I fully support you!) see what you can change in your life. What are your vices and what are they doing to your body?? It makes zero sense to try digging yourself out of a whole in which you are just throwing more dirt…


But believe me when I say this, your life can change. Things can truly get better, as long as you are willing to take these challenges head on and say no to your vices! Try subbing in more healthy vices that you feel good about when you’re done. Personally, I’m a big smoothie fan. When you are going through something and need to clear your mind, go either grab a smoothie and take a walk, or even make yourself one and take a walk. 


Also, watch the foods you eat! There are a bunch of fruits, veggies, nuts, etc. that will push your body in the direction of happiness and healthy hormone releases! Shouts out to blueberries! 


If y’all have questions, concerns, or even just want to talk. Comment below! I would be more than happy to talk to you! 

I hope y’all enjoyed this post, and let me know if there is anything else y’all would like me to write about!

Things can always get better, believe me!!

I love you!

Grant

Listen and Life Will Guide You

One thing I think we all struggle with is being in the moment, and when we aren’t in the moment, we have the potential to miss what life is trying to tell us. 

I’m not a huge fan of advice for this exact reason. Everyone’s situations are so damn unique, and everyone else just speaks from their past experience, which is not the exact same in any form or fashion. If you listen enough, life will give you all of the answers you need. Now granted, this is way easier said than done, but I truly think we are on the earth to be present and grow. We should aim to be better today than we were yesterday, but that requires letting go of a lot of ego. 


Day in and day out, we have constant room for improvement. From managing anger to ridding ourselves of unhealthy vices and being the most open and loving individuals we possibly can. When you are asking yourselves these questions and evaluating all of your interactions and thoughts, you are truly in the moment. And being in the moment allows you to clearly see the signs life is sending you. 


While this sounds good, it’s not always that easy. You will deal with a lot of people throughout the day that aren’t truly evaluating their thoughts and actions and this makes it that much harder for you to have a pleasant interaction, especially once you start really being cognizant of your actions. But you must not let them determine your emotions or feelings. You must have a set of morals to stand on. Otherwise you’ll get riled up at every unpleasant encounter and your growth will be halted. You will lose contact with what the world is trying to teach you in that moment. Rather than reacting negatively to someone, try and spread some love. Instead of being defensive, try and understand and hear them out. That’s what it comes down to most times. People feel like they aren’t being heard or valued, and we all have felt that way one time or another, and it’s a terrible feeling. If you keep that feeling in mind, it really dictates all of your interactions. And referencing back to my other post “Stop Taking Things So Personal,” it then becomes evident that these daily hostile interactions aren’t as much about you as they are about what that person is going through, and as you think about that at the time, you are truly in the moment. You are growing, listening, and loving then and there. 


Just keep in mind, that truly being in the moment will allow you to see where life is trying to guide you and answer all of your questions. But that can’t happen if we are constantly getting blinded by anger, stress, and fear. Spread love, and the world will reciprocate it. Every interaction you have gives you the opportunity to grow and become that much more in tune with your life. 


So I challenge you, be in the moment and listen to what life is trying to tell you. There will be answers everywhere, as long as you’re open to it with a clear mind, body, and soul. 


I hope y’all found this read at least thought provoking, and if you have any questions or comments, I’d love to hear from you below!

Love!

Grant