What is failure? Is it a poor grade on a test? A relationship that is no more? How about a job that let you go?
We as a society have such a toxic view of what are successes and what are failures. When we make a mistake, we automatically view it as a failure, which causes us to look right over all that could have been learned there. If there is a mistake made, that means something wasn’t done right. If something wasn’t done right, it means we have room to grow. Yet, while just accepting a mistake as a “failure,” we disregard the lesson that came with that mistake. For example, when I was driving to St. Louis from Chicago the other day, I was merging to the right lane from the left lane, but little did I know, there was a car passing by me on the right side in my blind spot. We were so close to being in an accident, and thankfully, we were not, but that doesn’t mean I didn’t make a mistake. I should have looked in all of my mirrors and then in my back right blind spot before merging. Fortunately, I didn’t have to be in an accident to learn this lesson, but I did have to make a mistake! Without making this mistake, I wouldn’t have learned that lesson in the harsh way I did. But the only reason this lesson was able to resonate with me is because I didn’t beat myself up over making a mistake. Rather, I evaluated the situation and realized what I did wrong.
But let’s address the reality here. Acknowledging that we made a mistake isn’t the easiest thing in the world, but it is extremely important. Without acknowledging these mistakes, we will continue to make them, and the repercussions will just get more and more severe. It is the world’s way of speaking to you.
Now next time you are beating yourself up over a mistake, take a step back and see what can be learned from it. We are humans. We make mistakes, and that’s okay! Just as long as you learn from them. We are on this earth to grow and become better versions of ourselves. Never forget that.
If you all have any questions, stories, or comments you’d like to share, I would love to hear from y’all! I hope this read took a bit of the weight off your shoulders and allowed you to breathe a little easier and sleep a little better!
When was the last time you had a conversation where there was no gossip involved?
Really…think about it.
So much of our damn conversations revolve around gossip, negativity, or complaining, yet we wonder why we are chronically down?
I stopped entertaining negative conversation at the top of the year, and let me tell you, some conversations get super awkward when you done entertain the negativity, but it sends such a strong message.
I’m not even saying you have to say, “I’m done entertaining negative conversation.” Honestly, just stay silent and the message is received immediately. They’ll think it’s weird, but they won’t say anything. Then 5 minutes will pass and they’ll try to gossip again, and then it will hit them, and they’ll feel uncomfortable for gossiping. But it creates this internal dialogue of them gossiping and it results in some self reflection. Now does that mean they’ll hangout with you again? Not necessarily haha, but it eliminates that negativity. People bond over negativity and it’s extremely toxic.
With all of this new found energy, you can truly pursue something you love, or even find awesome friends that encourage you, rather than constantly gossip. And you better believe, if they will gossip to you, they sure as hell will gossip about you!
We have no idea what will happen tomorrow, none the less, 5 minutes from now. We are taught to plan for our future and, essentially, live risk-less, but will that truly pay off emotionally?
I’ve seen numerous individuals pass away without living a fulfilled life, and that’s fucked up. I refuse to ever be on my death bed and regret a damn thing in life. Instead, I’m going to live every moment as if I don’t know what tomorrow holds. I’m going to make every decision based off of my happiness, and if I’m truly happy, I believe it will then benefit those around me. No one benefits from being scared and hesitant. We will always be afraid of the unknown, but that’s where change comes from. I’ve never seen someone grow from being comfortable.
But now, what if you live to see 100? Will you have planned enough to be able to handle life that long? That’s truly where the balance is struck. You must live constantly asking yourself the question, “what if you die young? But what if you don’t?” We must tip toe this fine balance of living for the moment, but preparing a fruitful, long future. As long as we keep that in mind, when our time comes to leave this Earth, we will be able to look back and truly regret nothing.
So what are you going to change today? Would you truly be content with where your life is at if you died tomorrow? Or would you be filled with regret?
It’s up to you! Now go pursue that truly fulfilling life you dream of!
And if y’all have any questions, comments, or even want to discuss your dreams, leave a comment below! I’d love to hear from you!