There Is Always An Excuse

Amidst my travels, I’ve been blessed with the opportunity to talk to people from all walks of life. One consistent thing I hear is people’s admiration for me pursuing what I love, and truly living life by my own rules. From, “I wish I could do what I love” to “you’re so lucky!” Which of course causes me to turn the conversation towards them. “Well, why can’t you do what you love? What’s stopping you?” And without fail, an excuse follows. 


Now when I say excuse, I don’t necessarily mean something invalid. I hear a bunch of understandable reasons! From parents judgement, to loans, to children, you name it! But then that brings me to the question, “you don’t think someone with those things has ever done what they love?” And follows the response of “well…yeah I’m sure they have BUT…” and another excuse follows. 

As this conversation continues, it becomes evident that it’s not as much these obligations as much as it is fear. Most of us are afraid! We are afraid of; failure, the unknown, the judgment of our peers, the hard work, and all sorts of other stuff. That is the root! We are afraid! But that is okay! I’ll be damned if not everyone who has ever accomplished anything has been afraid at one point or another. If we aren’t afraid, we aren’t aiming high enough!


“Okay, so im afraid…thank you for pointing that out. But what the fuck do I do about that?” you ask. 

Now it is time to address our fears. We must really sit down and address the fear within ourselves. Why are we afraid? What are we afraid of? Are our fears valid? How do we minimize these fears? 

Those first couple questions I can’t answer for you, but how to minimize those fears? That I can help with! Take it one step at a time. Don’t rush yourself into the process. Rome wasn’t built in a day! Things that are truly worth it take time, energy, and an absurd amount of patience. You are not going to be a professional in just one day, but you will be that much closer to being a professional. You must visualize your end goal and then work your way backwards. I’ll give you a good example here!

So about a year ago, I decided I wanted to make music. Having ZERO knowledge about the technical side of making music, but I knew what I wanted to do. I wanted to be on stage performing to thousands over songs that I produced and wrote. So now that I have my end goal, what the hell do I have to do to get there? I realized from a production standpoint, I’ll need to understand melodies and how a song goes together. The structure of the song if I may! Upon doing some research, I found out music theory is essentially the key to melody and good song structure so I then realized I need to learn music theory. I then began to look into music theory and break it down into different components, from scales, to chords, then to progrssions, etc! So now I had a loose grasp on what I needed to know to begin as a producer and I started to delve into all of these concepts! And then I began to do the exact same thing from a writers standpoint! All while studying modern day pieces and seeing what made them pleasing to the ear. 


In other words, I became a student of music! I immersed myself in it. I began to eat sleep and breathe music, and that’s what must be done! You must train your mind to think in the field you’re going into! Which sounds scary, but it’s as simple as surrounding yourself with it constantly. 

The key is to take it one step at a time! Set little milestones and work towards them! Don’t get concerned with the end goal because you will never feel like you’re making progress, but if you make small little goals, you will truly see the progression!

Now it is up to you! Face those fears head on, but at your own pace! Show yourself what you’re truly made of!

I believe in you damnit!

Grant

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We Don’t Need Your Advice

How many times have you received terrible advice?

It seems that everyone wants to give advice, without having any idea what you are talking about. Those around you can literally never have accomplished what you are trying to accomplish, yet they have advice on it…how does that work?


I’m at a point in my life where I am taking no one’s advice if they have not accomplished what I am pursuing. Why would I?

Often times, people’s advice is just their fear showing through them. They are afraid to take any risks, and in return, they project those exact same fears on you with the possibility of hindering you from pursuing anything worth while. 

And don’t get me started on old people giving advice…how many times have you heard from an older generation that you should go into tech or finance because the industry is currently booming? And they say this without knowing a damn thing about your love or abilities related to tech and finance.
Older people completely disregard the human factor of it all and just look at the money. But if it was that damn easy, why didn’t they get into finance? Why don’t they have an absurd amount of money now, and the happiest of lives?

Moral of the story being, do not let anyone steer you off of your path. Only you know where the world is leading you, but that doesn’t come without some effort. Truly listen to the world and to yourself and see what is best for you. See what could truly get you out of bed every morning, and what would truly allow you to live and sustain. 


Now let’s pursue our passions with the upmost resilience and see what this beautiful yet crazy thing called life has in store for us. 

Love!

Grant

What If You Die Young? But What If You Don’t?

We have no idea what will happen tomorrow, none the less, 5 minutes from now. We are taught to plan for our future and, essentially, live risk-less, but will that truly pay off emotionally?


I’ve seen numerous individuals pass away without living a fulfilled life, and that’s fucked up. I refuse to ever be on my death bed and regret a damn thing in life. Instead, I’m going to live every moment as if I don’t know what tomorrow holds. I’m going to make every decision based off of my happiness, and if I’m truly happy, I believe it will then benefit those around me. No one benefits from being scared and hesitant. We will always be afraid of the unknown, but that’s where change comes from. I’ve never seen someone grow from being comfortable. 


But now, what if you live to see 100? Will you have planned enough to be able to handle life that long? That’s truly where the balance is struck. You must live constantly asking yourself the question, “what if you die young? But what if you don’t?” We must tip toe this fine balance of living for the moment, but preparing a fruitful, long future. As long as we keep that in mind, when our time comes to leave this Earth, we will be able to look back and truly regret nothing. 

So what are you going to change today? Would you truly be content with where your life is at if you died tomorrow? Or would you be filled with regret?


It’s up to you! Now go pursue that truly fulfilling life you dream of!

And if y’all have any questions, comments, or even want to discuss your dreams, leave a comment below! I’d love to hear from you!

Love!!!

Grant

Write Down Your Goals

It is weird how real things get when we make them tangible. It is one thing to think up ideas and discuss what must be done to make them a reality, but it’s a whole new ball game when you see them written on a goal list. 

When you see your goals written in your handwriting day in and day out, it eats at you. You see them and you think. You analyze. You start thinking tangibly. You see yourself accomplishing those goals. They truly start to manifest themselves. They’re so close you can fucking taste them. 


When you put that energy out in the world, it sends it back. When the world senses that determination, it begins to part and show you your path. That doesn’t mean you won’t have to chop down some brush along the way, and then take a blind leap of faith, but the world offers you a cloud upon which you land. Everything slows down and you start thinking at that rate. That discomfort starts to feel a little more doable. Now when you look into the eyes of discomfort, you put your head down and charge forward. And the world sees this. The world feels this. Those around you feel this. Your goals know they’re in your sights. You’re onto them. 


But only because you wrote them down and allowed them to sail out into the world. 

Love

Grant 

Be Someone You Would Admire

I think we all have someone we interact with that never ceases to amaze us. Whether it be how loving they are, or even how determined. Something about them changes our day, and what we don’t realize is that we are that person to someone else…

When we don’t realize our power or potential, we don’t hold ourself to the standard that we should. We fail to realize that we aren’t only letting ourselves down, but those around us. We truly have the opportunity to inspire. Every one of our actions can change the life of someone who we don’t even know is watching, for the better or worse. It it is up to us decide.

Once we start thinking about our actions in this manner, we realize it is bigger than us. Then before you know it, we start to become someone that we would admire…

Today is a short post, but I think this idea carries so much weight that I don’t want to oversaturate it. 

But Just remember, you truly inspire. Your actions are watched and your words are heard. Use them to spread love. 

Love! 

Grant 

Shut Up and Start Doing

How many times have you found yourself telling your friends about what you wanted to do in the future? How about your significant other?

Why do you think we constantly talk about what we are going to do? Has anything good ever really come from talking about something? I don’t think so…


I used to do this all the damn time. I would get super excited about these ideas and I would tell everyone about them. But it eventually got to a point where I looked in the mirror and asked myself a couple questions: 

  1. Why do you need to tell everyone about these ideas?
  2. Have you actually laid any groundwork to make this happen?
  3. What must I truly do to make these dreams a reality?

So I ask myself these questions, and things began to make sense. I tell everyone about these because I was doubting my own abilities and needed reassurance. Acknowledging this allowed me to see the subconscious self doubt taking place, and caused me to analyze myself and become truly confident. I started then thinking about if I had done any true work to get closer to this dream, and the reality was I had not. I had done little shit, but it was merely to feel productive. Not to truly progress towards my dream. Finally, I asked myself what the hell I had to do to really pursue these dreams, and i realized that I had to really start doing the scary stuff. The things that you get scared thinking about. The things that make you question if you are truly capable. The sort of stuff that will have you learning stuff about yourself you never knew. Yeah…that sort of stuff. 


It was when I established this mindset was a necessity to succeed that I started to see true growth. I started asking myself the ugly questions, and started getting well deserved, beautiful results. 

We must take the ugly stuff head on. We must do what others are too scared to do. And when we do that is when we start to separate ourselves from the crowd. 

Let your work speak for you. Lay that groundwork and it will speak for you. 

Now shut up and start doing…you deserve it.


Love!!
Grant

Can Alcohol Cause Depression?

I started casually drinking when I was a junior in high school and partied my ass off until I was about a junior in college. Throughout all of this time, I was battling depression. I wasn’t running from it with booze by any stretch. I actually refused to drink when I felt down, so that it didn’t become a vice. But as I decided to really start to battle this depression, I started doing everything in my power to find the root of it. And this is when I drew the correlation between my alcohol use and depression.


 I only started feeling down and depressed as a junior in high school and that’s the same year I started drinking…Somethings adding up. Now that seemed way too easy to me so I wasn’t convinced right away. But as I cut back on my drinking, I would wake up feeling like a had a bit more energy. I didn’t have to work so hard to get up and going emotionally. Get this! Some mornings I even woke up, dare I say it, happy…it was a whole different world. And then when I would drink again, I would wake up feeling like I was emotionally on the sadder, depressed end of the spectrum.

I then got to thinking, “I see this direct correlation in myself, but has anyone else investigated this?” And sure enough…http://www.jsad.com/doi/abs/10.15288/jsa.2006.67.837 , and this is just one of an abundance of sources…

The more I read about it, the more I realized how real “substance induced depression” is…all my feelings steered me right. It only makes sense though. If we are using a depressant, our body’s natural functions will be “depressed,” our mood included. 


So I encourage you, before turning to any pills or outside sources, unless truly needed, (which if so, I fully support you!) see what you can change in your life. What are your vices and what are they doing to your body?? It makes zero sense to try digging yourself out of a whole in which you are just throwing more dirt…


But believe me when I say this, your life can change. Things can truly get better, as long as you are willing to take these challenges head on and say no to your vices! Try subbing in more healthy vices that you feel good about when you’re done. Personally, I’m a big smoothie fan. When you are going through something and need to clear your mind, go either grab a smoothie and take a walk, or even make yourself one and take a walk. 


Also, watch the foods you eat! There are a bunch of fruits, veggies, nuts, etc. that will push your body in the direction of happiness and healthy hormone releases! Shouts out to blueberries! 


If y’all have questions, concerns, or even just want to talk. Comment below! I would be more than happy to talk to you! 

I hope y’all enjoyed this post, and let me know if there is anything else y’all would like me to write about!

Things can always get better, believe me!!

I love you!

Grant