There Is Always An Excuse

Amidst my travels, I’ve been blessed with the opportunity to talk to people from all walks of life. One consistent thing I hear is people’s admiration for me pursuing what I love, and truly living life by my own rules. From, “I wish I could do what I love” to “you’re so lucky!” Which of course causes me to turn the conversation towards them. “Well, why can’t you do what you love? What’s stopping you?” And without fail, an excuse follows. 


Now when I say excuse, I don’t necessarily mean something invalid. I hear a bunch of understandable reasons! From parents judgement, to loans, to children, you name it! But then that brings me to the question, “you don’t think someone with those things has ever done what they love?” And follows the response of “well…yeah I’m sure they have BUT…” and another excuse follows. 

As this conversation continues, it becomes evident that it’s not as much these obligations as much as it is fear. Most of us are afraid! We are afraid of; failure, the unknown, the judgment of our peers, the hard work, and all sorts of other stuff. That is the root! We are afraid! But that is okay! I’ll be damned if not everyone who has ever accomplished anything has been afraid at one point or another. If we aren’t afraid, we aren’t aiming high enough!


“Okay, so im afraid…thank you for pointing that out. But what the fuck do I do about that?” you ask. 

Now it is time to address our fears. We must really sit down and address the fear within ourselves. Why are we afraid? What are we afraid of? Are our fears valid? How do we minimize these fears? 

Those first couple questions I can’t answer for you, but how to minimize those fears? That I can help with! Take it one step at a time. Don’t rush yourself into the process. Rome wasn’t built in a day! Things that are truly worth it take time, energy, and an absurd amount of patience. You are not going to be a professional in just one day, but you will be that much closer to being a professional. You must visualize your end goal and then work your way backwards. I’ll give you a good example here!

So about a year ago, I decided I wanted to make music. Having ZERO knowledge about the technical side of making music, but I knew what I wanted to do. I wanted to be on stage performing to thousands over songs that I produced and wrote. So now that I have my end goal, what the hell do I have to do to get there? I realized from a production standpoint, I’ll need to understand melodies and how a song goes together. The structure of the song if I may! Upon doing some research, I found out music theory is essentially the key to melody and good song structure so I then realized I need to learn music theory. I then began to look into music theory and break it down into different components, from scales, to chords, then to progrssions, etc! So now I had a loose grasp on what I needed to know to begin as a producer and I started to delve into all of these concepts! And then I began to do the exact same thing from a writers standpoint! All while studying modern day pieces and seeing what made them pleasing to the ear. 


In other words, I became a student of music! I immersed myself in it. I began to eat sleep and breathe music, and that’s what must be done! You must train your mind to think in the field you’re going into! Which sounds scary, but it’s as simple as surrounding yourself with it constantly. 

The key is to take it one step at a time! Set little milestones and work towards them! Don’t get concerned with the end goal because you will never feel like you’re making progress, but if you make small little goals, you will truly see the progression!

Now it is up to you! Face those fears head on, but at your own pace! Show yourself what you’re truly made of!

I believe in you damnit!

Grant

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We Don’t Need Your Advice

How many times have you received terrible advice?

It seems that everyone wants to give advice, without having any idea what you are talking about. Those around you can literally never have accomplished what you are trying to accomplish, yet they have advice on it…how does that work?


I’m at a point in my life where I am taking no one’s advice if they have not accomplished what I am pursuing. Why would I?

Often times, people’s advice is just their fear showing through them. They are afraid to take any risks, and in return, they project those exact same fears on you with the possibility of hindering you from pursuing anything worth while. 

And don’t get me started on old people giving advice…how many times have you heard from an older generation that you should go into tech or finance because the industry is currently booming? And they say this without knowing a damn thing about your love or abilities related to tech and finance.
Older people completely disregard the human factor of it all and just look at the money. But if it was that damn easy, why didn’t they get into finance? Why don’t they have an absurd amount of money now, and the happiest of lives?

Moral of the story being, do not let anyone steer you off of your path. Only you know where the world is leading you, but that doesn’t come without some effort. Truly listen to the world and to yourself and see what is best for you. See what could truly get you out of bed every morning, and what would truly allow you to live and sustain. 


Now let’s pursue our passions with the upmost resilience and see what this beautiful yet crazy thing called life has in store for us. 

Love!

Grant

Shut Up and Start Doing

How many times have you found yourself telling your friends about what you wanted to do in the future? How about your significant other?

Why do you think we constantly talk about what we are going to do? Has anything good ever really come from talking about something? I don’t think so…


I used to do this all the damn time. I would get super excited about these ideas and I would tell everyone about them. But it eventually got to a point where I looked in the mirror and asked myself a couple questions: 

  1. Why do you need to tell everyone about these ideas?
  2. Have you actually laid any groundwork to make this happen?
  3. What must I truly do to make these dreams a reality?

So I ask myself these questions, and things began to make sense. I tell everyone about these because I was doubting my own abilities and needed reassurance. Acknowledging this allowed me to see the subconscious self doubt taking place, and caused me to analyze myself and become truly confident. I started then thinking about if I had done any true work to get closer to this dream, and the reality was I had not. I had done little shit, but it was merely to feel productive. Not to truly progress towards my dream. Finally, I asked myself what the hell I had to do to really pursue these dreams, and i realized that I had to really start doing the scary stuff. The things that you get scared thinking about. The things that make you question if you are truly capable. The sort of stuff that will have you learning stuff about yourself you never knew. Yeah…that sort of stuff. 


It was when I established this mindset was a necessity to succeed that I started to see true growth. I started asking myself the ugly questions, and started getting well deserved, beautiful results. 

We must take the ugly stuff head on. We must do what others are too scared to do. And when we do that is when we start to separate ourselves from the crowd. 

Let your work speak for you. Lay that groundwork and it will speak for you. 

Now shut up and start doing…you deserve it.


Love!!
Grant

Say No To Yourself

Our everyday lives are full of a bunch of wants and desires, but we have to say no to ourselves, no matter how hard it is. 


If we constantly give in to our wants and desires, we are not challenging ourselves, and sure as hell not becoming our best selves. 

For example…I love to eat, especially eat out, but I know what that does to my health and pocket. And when I’m not hungry, I can say no to myself all day long, but the second I get really hungry, it becomes a hell of a lot harder. And this affects me in all sorts of ways. Financially, health wise, and then it even bums me out because I know I gave into temptation that I didn’t want to, so at the end of it, I feel all sorts of shitty. 


So what I have begun doing is really saying no to myself. Even when things get tough and my body really starts yearning for something, you must say no. Even if it is something as little as not buying an ice cream cone or cookie. 

Beyond finances and health, saying no to yourself is a super healthy practice. It exercises will power and really let’s us take control. It empowers us and allows us to realize that if we have willpower, we can do whatever we put our minds too. 


Overtime, you will see this mental strength and willpower play out in every facet of life. But it just has to start somewhere, so why not start it with saying no to yourself?

I hope this was able to spark some thought, and I hope y’all enjoyed this read! 

Best of luck, and stay strong damnit!! Haha

Loveeeee

Grant